I’ve been hearing the word “no” or “no thanks” quite a bit lately. That’s all part of the process of trying to get published. You send out LOTS of letters (called “queries” in the biz) to lots of different literary agents and wait for at least one to say “I’m interested” or something similar. It’s very rare to hear that from someone. Very. Rare. One agent whose blog I follow (and who has said “no” to me already) indicated he alone receives between 15-20k letters each year and ends up only taking on 3-5 new clients out of that number. How ’bout them odds?
With all this in mind, I’m realizing (again) the necessity of no. If I really, REALLY believe in the work I am doing, then no should only be a “yes” deferred. In other words, “no” is (or can be) a great opportunity to dig deeper and to hopefully discover at least two truths: Do I believe, and is my work worth believing in? Rejection is never fun and no one wants to be rejected. I am learning, however, that anything I create can almost always be improved, and most of the time substantially. Rather than throwing up my hands in despair (which I would NEVER do
) I instead must sit back down in the chair and try looking through another person’s eyes to discover why they said “no.” I don’t like you, Mr. Rejection, but I understand why you are necessary. Mostly.

